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You may have noticed that my blog’s starting to look a little different, with a different layout/theme and the addition of Video Game and Movie Reviews. I’m excited to announce that these are just a few of the changes that my site will be undergoing in the near future, all so that I can provide you with more entertainment information and deals! Don’t worry, there will still be at least two book reviews a week, but I’ll be adding:

  • information about special deals on books and other entertainment products. I’ve been scouring the internet for really good deals on books, and want to pass them on to you! ‘Cause I’m just that nice. I’ve partnered with a few select vendors of books, video games, movies, and related entertainment products so that I can have better access to deals, deals that you won’t find in other places.
  • video game reviews: In my ample spare time, I game (and fish, dirt bike, camp, etc.). I also have a teenage boy who games a lot. I’ll be sharing reviews and deals on video games, both from the perspective from a busy mom who games (i.e., if you don’t have a lot of time, you only want to spend your money on those games that are really worth it), and a mom of a teenager, trying to stay on top of the kind of content he consumes. For those five other momgamers out there (yes, that is a thing because I just invented it), and for those other moms of teenagers trying to monitor their kids’ media consumption as well.
  • movie reviews: detailed and sometimes even with spoilers, so you can spend your money wisely and be entertained.

So, over the next few weeks, watch for these changes:

  •  switch to, to cover broader content. You’ll still be access, but if you see HeadOverTales in the header, don’t be surprised. You’re in the right place.
  • header will be a little fancier, more “doodlier.”
  • addition of video game and movie content

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Book Review: The Cyber Effect, a Dire Read About Internet Psychology

I have no trouble admitting that I very much hesitated to write this particular review of the book The Cyber Effect by Mary Aiken. It is non-fiction explanation of the ways in which human behavior changes online, by a cyberpsychologist. It is a deep, thorough examination of the psychology of the internet as a relatively new and expanding space, and it is a very depressing one at that.  As a book, it fulfills the parameters of its title, is technically sound and structured. Its sources are credible and robust. But, as a description of the human race, it leaves much to be desired. And to the extent that it describes in great detail the many evil uses to which the internet has been put, one might expect that, in the interested of balanced science, it would also describe its positive uses as well, or at least its possible positive uses. But in that, one is disappointed. It is a dire read of internet psychology.


“Technology is not good or bad in its own right,” says the author. “It is neutral and simply mediates behavior, which means it can be used well or poorly by humankind.” Given that introduction, one would indeed expect, or at least hope for an examination of both the ways it has so far been used “well” and the ways it has been used “poorly” by humankind. Instead, it describes only  how the internet has caused an explosion in the normalization of fetishes, addictions, and cases of hypochondria. “You don’t have to be an expert in the subject of online behavior to have observed that something about cyberspace provokes people to be more adventurous.” And, “once behavior mutates in cyberspace, where a significant number of people participate, it can double back around and become a norm in everyday life. This means that the implications of the online experience and environment are ever evolving and profound, and impact us all–no matter where we live or spend.”

While knowledge about the proliferation of humankind’s evils as facilitated by technology and the internet is helpful in combating it, so is knowledge of the healthy life practices, especially those proliferated by the internet. A whole chapter is spent documenting the necessity of nursing mothers looking at their babies’ faces while nursing, as opposed to their screens, for example, based on the author’s anecdotal experience of watching one mother looking at her screen instead of her baby’s face while nursing. A balanced perspective would have included a listing of any studies that have been done documenting how many mothers do in fact look at their babies versus how many look at their screens.

gamer-generation-coverAlong those same lines, many pages are devoted to the ways and reasons why a boy or girl with any kind of an ADD or depression diagnosis will most likely become addicted to online gaming. While parents of those children, I’m sure, are aware of that possibility, they may not be aware of the positive effects of video games, as described in Jennifer Comet Wagner’s The Gamer Generation: Reaping the Benefits of Video Games or in various studies cited by TIME magazine in its analysis of the Cognitive Benefits of Video Games. This is not to say that a knowledge of the very possible, very negative implications of over-involvement in cyberspace is not important, but by its very existence and by the author’s own admission, too deep a knowledge of such things can be an evil in and of itself.

One could easily argue, as many have done, that any call to balance the debate about the overall value of the internet, and technology in general, is a call to ignore its more ghastly applications, to live in gleeful and willful ignorance. That is not what I advocate by providing this negative view of The Cyber Effect.  While I know that humankind can indeed be depraved, and that the internet has definitely exacerbated that tendency, I have, perhaps, knowledge of some of the more practical and positive uses of technology, having interviewed many wonderful women who’ve done so for

I am reluctant to review any book negatively because I know the great amount of work that goes into writing them. But it is not the book itself with which I take umbrage; it is its subject matter, its fatalistic view of humankind as defined by its use of the internet. No viable alternatives or positive steps are really given, other than those suggested by a listing of other countries’ approaches to cyberspace regulation. Those alternatives are called for, though: “We need to do more for families, and stop expecting parents to paddle their own canoes in cyberspace,” for one. “We need to start funding law enforcement better, so it can do its job in cyberspace. More resources are needed, and more teams need to be trained in this work. Academics and scientists need to be more flexible and responsive. We should bring together a large, diverse team of people to discuss and brainstorm about how best to redesign [the internet].” A much more in-depth discussion of these possibilities would have balanced out the book greatly.


Disclaimer: I received a free ARC of the book through NetGalley. All opinions provided herein are my own.